This has been a very tough year for me. I have been shaken to my core. I have questioned everything about not just myself but the world around me, even God and the universe.
Tonight I must admit that I was more nervous that I wanted to be about Obama winning the election. With the year I had, I don’t know if I could take anymore bad news. My fears tried to take over but I quietly checked them at bay. I was reminded once again the importance of faith. I knew that I not only had to have faith that Obama would win but that everything would work out. It just like want President Obama said in his acceptance speech about hope. I don’t know the exact quote but it was something about being in a dark place and holding onto hope that something good was beyond the horizon. That is what hope is. Believing in the unbelievable, that is hope.
So just like my Mama, I believed in our President. I believed that enough people would vote with their hearts. I believed that love would conquer hate. Sure I was scared but I not only faced that fear but I stood strongly and pushed through. I knew what it would mean for my community to have Mitt Romney as President and I couldn’t see anything good coming from that. For me that is why it was so important to vote and encourage others to do so.
I wanted to do more. I really did. But I have to realize that even if I touched one person’s life that I have made a difference. That is what it all boils down to.
Watching the elections results was tortuous at times. Even when lost a battle, I still kept moving forward. As the night endured, I started to see the light at the end of the tunnel. I can remember this tingling sensation that came over me when I heard that Obama was re-elected. Though no one was with me when I watched the results, I was not alone. The triumph of love was overflowing.
As happy as I was with the results I have to admit it felt a little bitter sweet to realize how divided our country is. Honestly I am troubled with how many people could vote for Romney. I mean look at the candidate in Indiana who has crazy views on legitimate rape… Over 700k people voted for him.
I also saw with the success of Obama, all the hatred come out in regards to his success. One of my facebook friends, a fellow classmate, posted that our country was doomed. Through a facebook conversation with him and all his friend, I found out that he believed in the whole being gay is a sin… My initial response was to argue with their idiocracies. I was quickly transported to so many other people who so feverishly tried to make me feel less for being gay. Thankfully I quickly realized that I was only fueling their flames and it was time to get out of dodge, as I had no place there.
I have come to realize that there are some people in this world who will just never get it and it isn’t my place to help them find it. I have a message and I need to bring it to people who not only need it, want it.
I have also come to learn that not everyone embraces love and the universal truths. When you stand strong and let your love shine, it causes those who live in the darkness (fear) to panic. The light is very blinding to those who stay in the dark. So they will do whatever it takes to extinguish that light. Their fears have turned into truths and realities, and now they have to convince the world in order to believe it as well. It is also how they get control of the storm within them by turning it outward onto the world. They project their hatred in the name of God.
They don’t realize the damage they do to themselves, nor do they realize the damage they do to others. It becomes especially dangerous when it comes to passing laws in regards to religious beliefs. Each act of hatred just chips away at the collective self esteem of the gay community. I have never understood why some people try to limit God’s love to a very narrowed audience???
These people who are fanatic in their religious views just don’t get it… I have learned you have to just move on. Drive through as a friend once told me. It is so easy to get caught up in their commotion. I started to do that tonight as well.
The more progress we see, the more these fanatics will come out of the woodworks. Progress and change causes great risk to their security. Their majority starts to shrink until they become the minority. Whether they want to admit it or not, views on Marriage Equality are changing. People are seeing equality more than just gay rights, a basic civil right.
Which reminded me of something that I brought up in this debate earlier tonight. Wasn’t Jesus osterized, tortured and murdered because of who he loved and what he believed in… So in reality those who persecute gay people are no better than those who persecuted Jesus. They are one in the same and they don’t even realize it.
That is why it is so important for those who do get it, stand up and let their voices be heard.
I think about where the LGBT community was in 2008 when Prop 8 was passed and how devastating that was to our community. Who would have thought four years later we would see the first President to come out in support of Marriage Equality get re-elected with that as a platform? Not to mention the four states that passed some sort of Marriage Equality proposal. Plus if all of that wasn’t enough of TKO sign of change, seeing Tammy Baldwin get elected as the first openly gay senator is.
Sure we have a long ways to go, and the fight isn’t over but tonight we have a lot to celebrate and be proud of. Our work is never done because there will always be those who oppose us.
I also realize there is this fine balance of those who oppose us and those who just don’t have all the information. These are the people who are open minded to our cause. Also at what point do you decide to rock the boat or just go along for the ride? How do you get to those people who are overtly homophobic but haven’t quite seen our perspective?
Take for example straight people who voted for Romney. I understand that not everyone has all the information. So many people still see equality as a belief system and not a civil right… How do you open their minds to see the importance for equality? Take it past a belief system and show them how these injustices affect our lives on a daily basis.
My first thought is just to delete everyone on facebook who voted for Romney but I also realize that in some cases I might be missing out on a chance to create change. Then what about the people who I know outside of facebook? My first gut reaction is just to push everyone away but I am trying to give people the benefit of the doubt. Which was what I was trying to do with the fellow classmate, in which I quickly learned wasn’t possible. Now there are some people who just won’t get it, but there are some who are decent people that just don’t realize how it affects others.
Sure everyone has beliefs and stances on the issues. People vote for those who closely align with their own belief systems. I saw a straight person post that there are more important issues. I have also seen there are other issues. I have also heard people say well I support gay people and marriage equality, then vote for a candidate that is against it. Actions speak louder than words.
Candidates like Romney threaten the security of the gay community. Think about the gay families with children and how fearful they were of Romney getting into office. These inequalities cause great harm to the community. As a family one of the most important roles as a parent is to protection but how is that possible if we don’t have all the rights as everyone else. In many states gay people still can get fired for being gay and lose their housing just for being gay. Then you have those who will cause physical harm to someone just for being gay. These are just a few of the many injustices we have to live with on a daily basis. All based on who we love…
So when it comes to voting, it really becomes a matter of security. A matter of life or death in some cases. That is why many have issue with some putting their financial gain over their civil rights. The economy is a key issue for most but at what cost is it worth if you are taking away rights from a minority?
At what point do you stand up and take responsibility of your surroundings. The reality that when you vote, you are also effecting other people. That is why it is so important to be informed.
Do you want to be someone that builds a person up or someone who tears them down? Sure you might not directly be doing it but by voting for candidates who are anti gay you indirectly are tearing them down. In a world where so many try to tear us down, be courageous and take a stand. That is how real change happens.
Injustice and inequalities should never be tolerated. There comes a point where it is important to stand up for what is right, even if it means rocking the boat. Yes we have to work together but doesn’t mean we can’t be strong and take a stand.
If you know someone who is gay and you know all of this, and you still vote for a candidate who is for taking away our rights… You are saying your issues are more important than my civil rights. Personally that wouldn’t make me feel good about our relationship.
I think that is why when I hear our President so openly show support to the LGBT community, I am overwhelmed with warmth… Here was someone who did the the unthinkable and did what was right, even if that meant not getting elected. He values our role in America. Obama has become our champion, one of our biggest allies.
Hearing his speech tonight I couldn’t help be be inspired. Seeing him face the opposition with such strength, care and compassion really opened my heart and mind to many different things. I hope he realizes the impact he has had on me and so many others in the gay community. During a time where people tell us we are going to hell and God hates us, here is our President lifting us up. I can’t help but feel wonderful.
I struggle with being seen and letting my voice be heard on a daily basis. Being in the presence of such a caring and wonderful leader gives me the opportunity to muster up the courage to venture out into the world and make it a better place. He embodies the true essence of love and service.
and Obama has reminded me that YES I CAN, and so can you!!!